If you have been in a coma the past few weeks (or longer) you may not have seen all the news stories about inappropriate sexual behavior. Well, you can relax. I am NOT going to talk about any of those stories. What I am going to talk about is something more relevant to mongering: Appropriate and inappropriate behavior toward working girls.
Anything that is legal and consensual is basically ‘appropriate.’ The key word here is consensual. There are men who don’t seem to realize that when a woman consents to have sex for money, it doesn’t mean she has agreed to do anything and everything. Don’t expect her to do everything you see in those triple X videos you watch.
There are a lot of kinks and fetishes in this world. From what I have seen, there are a few who will consent almost anything. But once again, I use the word ‘consent.’ Just because some video producer has found someone willing to be humiliated or abused on camera doesn’t mean YOUR date of the evening will be willing. Almost surely she WILL NOT.
Asking is permissible, but depending on what you ask for, don’t be surprised if she says no, or reacts with revulsion or even fear, depending on your request. Also keep in mind that there are some kinky things that a girl would be willing to do TO YOU, but not at all willing to let you do TO HER.
To take S and M as an example, I live in a place where advertising sexual services is totally legal and uncensored. In browsing these ads, I come across a fair number of women offering ‘dominacion.’ Just in Medellin for ads posted today, I found six separate chicas offering domination. Not my cup of tea, but different strokes for different folks. But I have yet to see ads by women wanting to be humiliated. Such women may exist, but are probably happily married to sadists.
But to return to the main point, appropriate behavior with a sex worker is only what she consents to. Anything beyond that is NOT appropriate and the mark of a jerk.