I used to play in a Country band. It was back in the days when people preferred to dance to live music. I was in one particular group that certainly gave me an education that I couldn’t have gotten at Harvard. I was relatively young, and it just so happened that our bass player and singer was a lesbian who had the voice of an angel but that was the end of her angelic qualities. She was difficult to get along with, which caused the band to go through a lot of drummers. I can think of six in the space of a year. One of them, a guy called ‘Frenchy’ was quite fond of attention and did a rather entertaining drum solo that included a little comedy shtick. The comedy wasn’t bad, but after hearing the same jokes over and over, I just tolerated it along with the other things musicians tolerate in bars.
Now, Frenchy had this little toast he did when it was somebody’s birthday. I’m sure he didn’t make it up, but he was the first person I heard it from. It went like… “Here’s to so-and-so. May you live as long as you want to… (here he would do a little fake giggle) and may you WANT TO as long as you live!”
Now, I think that mongers all ‘want to’ as long as they live, but wanting to do something doesn’t mean you are able. With the widespread use of ED medications, the number of years we are able has been extended quite a bit. It varies a lot from man to man, just as other aspects of sex vary, but even an unfortunate who lost his (unmedicated) ‘mojo’ at forty can extend his functionality by years if not decades. Still, there are some men who lose their ability to perform long before they lose their love of female company, even with the aforementioned performance enhancing medications.
I don’t imagine that most who have NOT lost their mojos give much thought to those who have, but those who see their sex drives declining tend not to be enthusiastic about it. But a friend’s father used to have a little saying that may, perhaps, be of some comfort. Uncle Ray used to say, “I may be too old to cut the mustard, but I can still lick the jar!”
So cherish your stiff upper lip, and tongue, when all else fails.