Thomas O'Brien

If you have been in a coma the past few weeks (or longer) you may not have seen all the news stories about inappropriate sexual behavior. Well, you can relax. I am NOT going to talk about any of those stories. What I am going to talk about is something more relevant to mongering: Appropriate and inappropriate behavior toward working girls.

Anything that is legal and consensual is basically ‘appropriate.’ The key word here is consensual. There are men who don’t seem to realize that when a woman consents to have sex for money, it doesn’t mean she has agreed to do anything and everything. Don’t expect her to do everything you see in those triple X videos you watch.

There are a lot of kinks and fetishes in this world. From what I have seen, there are a few who will consent almost anything. But once again, I use the word ‘consent.’ Just because some video producer has found someone willing to be humiliated or abused on camera doesn’t mean YOUR date of the evening will be willing. Almost surely she WILL NOT.

Asking is permissible, but depending on what you ask for, don’t be surprised if she says no, or reacts with revulsion or even fear, depending on your request. Also keep in mind that there are some kinky things that a girl would be willing to do TO YOU, but not at all willing to let you do TO HER.

To take S and M as an example, I live in a place where advertising sexual services is totally legal and uncensored. In browsing these ads, I come across a fair number of women offering ‘dominacion.’ Just in Medellin for ads posted today, I found six separate chicas offering domination. Not my cup of tea, but different strokes for different folks. But I have yet to see ads by women wanting to be humiliated. Such women may exist, but are probably happily married to sadists.

But to return to the main point, appropriate behavior with a sex worker is only what she consents to. Anything beyond that is NOT appropriate and the mark of a jerk.

We can see the outside, at least the part not covered by clothing. For that matter, clothing can tell us something too, although it can often put a sexy front on a cold fish. But what goes on inside someone, a working girl, for example, can only be imagined. Over time, actions and words can fill in parts someone’s vast uncharted inner life, but only parts.

I am thinking in particular of Deysi, a chica who worked one of the nighttime venues in San Jose. It was a step down from an actual strip club, but on weekends, at midnight, there would be a show of some sort. Sometimes it was a halfhearted dance from a marginally appealing chica, and sometimes it was something quite impressive. Deysi was impressive.

I will note here that I had enjoyed Deysi’s company before I saw her perform. She had a pretty face, nice smooth brown skin and an above average figure. In bed, she was a little unusual. She gave the impression that she was somewhat reluctant to let herself go, but she warmed up quite quickly and the end result was very passionate. The fact that I was with her multiple times is testimony to her passion and charms.

I was a pretty frequent customer at her place of work, and she was always friendly, never possessive like some chicas get. But all of this is prelude to watching her do her performance on stage. Her dancing was not really the centerpiece of her act. The centerpiece was a bottle of beer. She would drink some of it, to start with. Then she would pour some of it over her chest and rub it around, obviously turning herself on in the process.

There was still beer in the bottle, and she used some more of it below her waist, in that special spot between her legs. The expression on her face became more and more lascivious and eventually she used the bottle itself to stimulate herself ‘down there.’ And she wasn’t done yet. She then took the bottle and took a drink of the beer. Yeah baby! And THEN… offered a sip to the guys sitting in the front row. Very generous of her, I say. Some guys would accept, others decline, but Deysi seemed to truly get off on doing her act, though I got the sense that she felt a little ashamed of letting herself go wild like that.

I thought it was sweet how she had this sexual demon inside her that she tried to suppress, but never succeeded. Damn! She was fun. I miss her.